No more filmstrips or videos. No more awkward conversations with your teacher about anatomy. As an adult, we all surely know the basics but for many of us, sex education takes a standstill after establishing ourselves as adults. For many, by the time we reach our 30s or 40s, we may think we know all there is to know.
Unfortunately, this is precisely the time when problems with our bodies and relationships can arise. It is the perfect time to “go back to school” and learn a little more.
Go back to school
Not literally, of course. Put diagrams and cross sections out of your mind for the moment and take in the many thorough, interesting, entertaining and unique books that are out there to supplement your current knowledge. Sex education isn’t dry and stuffy, it’s about how our bodies work, how things like our emotions, diet and exercise affect our sexuality and how we can take steps to improving issues we may feel are inevitable.
Some sex education stand-bys
In it’s 9th edition and after forty years, Our Bodies, Ourselves has stood the test of time and adapted well for current circumstances. Touching on nearly every subject regarding sex and sexuality, OBOS is a great place to start for an overview of all things you. The Boston Women’s Health Book Collective have also published a Menopause version, expanding on peri- and post-menopause issues.
This guide takes a more humorous, conversational approach to the topic of sex, your body and sexuality. Used in fifty college sex-education courses, Guide to Getting it On has proven that open, frank discussion can be immensely useful. Illustrations in this hefty volume vary from textbook anatomical to comic-style humorous. You will leave this book laughing and with more knowledge than you ever thought possible.
Get ready, ladies, because this book has all of the things you do and possibly do not want to know about the vulvovaginal region. Don’t be afraid! Information is power so even the things we’re afraid to learn about can come in handy some day. The information in this book has the power to keep you healthy and satisfied, all at once.
Try some hands-on education
When you’re finished reading about it, nothing beats a little hands-on sex education. This could mean on your own or with a partner.
What you see is what you have
Try taking a look at your vulva and vagina (maybe for the first time) to see how it’s actually shaped.
To play is to do
Try a new toy. Vibrators and dils have different shapes, textures, vibration patterns, intensities and patterns. Different toys have different affects on different people. The only way to learn what works for you is trying it out.
To feel is to know
Other products to try to learn how your body responds are stimulating gels, lotions or lubricants. Some products warm and others cool. Some provide a tingle and others a pop.
Feel around some more
Learning with a partner? There’s no better way than exploring their body to find out their sensitive spots. Use some massage oil to fluidly feel across and around their body. Skin on skin contact in ways other than intercourse can be stress-relieving, relaxing and bonding.
Sex Education by doing or reading
Whether you learn by seeing, doing or reading, it’s easy to rekindle those brain cells and learn more about your body. It’s never too late!